I badly need to have a Prayer Partner again. I have one in my Spiritual Direction training, but we see each other once a month, which is not cutting it. Also, that seems to be more of a covenant-to-pray-for-you sort of thing that a pray-with-you sort of thing.

I've been thinking about this for a while, but it's really come to the fore since last week's Friday Five.

Having a regular prayer partner was part of the baby that got thrown out with the bathwater when I moved from being part of evangelical churches to being a Piskie. I became closest to people who are still beloved friends this way. I had a much stronger sense of that "peace that passeth understanding."

Mr. M is happy to pray with me, and that's good; we should almost certainly do more of that, but it's not quite what I need. I need another woman to sit down with, weekly or biweekly, share the stuff that's going on, and look together for God's direction and presence in our lives. Having done that, I want us to spend time together talking to God about what we've shared.

Does anyone understand why Piskies don't do this? Probably some do, but where I am, this sort of relationship (with God and with one another) seems to be discouraged. I think incorporating actual voodoo into our spiritual practice might be met with a warmer reception. I really believe that we, all people, need some sort of intimate spiritual support, accountability, and love. Where are we, as Mainline churches, teaching/showing/offering that? Is it just us Piskies struggling here?

(And, I'd like to point out, there is absolutely no reason in my mind that my Prayer Partner needs to be of the same denomination. But if I don't find her in church, where will I find her?)


  1. Would that we were in the same town, I'm looking for one too.

    The first time I heard of such a relationship was from my SP. S had had prayer partners since she started discernment oh these many years ago. She and I sort of do that still, but its not formal and we're not good about setting the time apart as separate and holy.

    I've never heard it discouraged around my 'Piskie circles, its just that no one seems to have heard of it! (A bit like spiritual direction really.)

  2. I hope you find the partner you seek soon.

  3. oh... i want to be your prayer partner. i haven't had one since seminary. and i need one, for sure. sigh.

    too far away...

    thanks for inspiring me.

    hope you find one soon.

  4. great idea! i know a Lutheran pastor who had prayer partners all over, of all ages, in his church. Not so sure how he did it though, I mean, with some people, not with others. I should ask him. His name is Dick Hardel.

    thanks for the inspiration.

  5. I think, perhaps, that we (mainliners) are worried about being mistaken for one of "those" kinds of Christians. This mindset is silly and hurting us spiritually.

    It's great to have so many blogging buddy prayer partners whom I value and treasure, but I, too, am longing for a local prayer partner. I have someone in mind and you've inspied me to call her. Thank you.

  6. I have been reading your posts tagged spiritual direction and I know what you mean here. All of my experiences of such have not been the monthly kind. For the past 5 summers I have done 8 days of silence at the Jesuit Center in Wernersville, PA, meeting weekly with a friend who is a spiritual director as we read a book together ended when we finsihed the book at which point I began weekly meetings with a director leading me through the spiritual exercises of Ignatius... now for two months, nothing, and I am missing it. Did you ever find someone to meet with weekly? I hope you did and that it has been a bit of what you were hoping for. I enjoy your writing.


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